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Monday, April 9, 2012

Engaged but having doubts! HELP! - Talk About Marriage

General Relationship Discussion Although anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.

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So, I have been in a relationship with this woman for 4 ? years, engaged for ? year, but still have serious doubts about whether she is the one. I had a horribly mentally tormenting time, trying to decide whether to propose to her or not, and once I did I was relieved and happy with the decision.

Now the doubts are starting to creep back in and I feel too embarrassed to talk to anybody close with me about it. I find myself resentful of all the things she?s done to me in the past, despite myself forgiving her and doing my best to move on. I look at those things, as times when I should have ended the relationship but instead I pushed on.

She is a very attractive woman but our sex-life is non-existent and has been for a year. I know it won?t be any better once we are married, but I don?t know how to tell her that. I often find myself desiring other woman and looking for ways to get attention from other woman when I am away from my fianc?e. I have never cheated on her but the lack of passion in our relationship is killer. I still feel like I love her, and she is usually great to me (of course we have fights, and I get upset when she nags me, but that is normal in any relationship, right!). This is why we have stayed the course for 4 ? years.

I really do look forward to our future together and there are legitimate things in our future that make me happy and I get excited about, but also things that cause concern. We had a break-up for a month about a year ago and it was devastating to me. I had been having doubts about our relationship then and I told her, so she broke up with me. As soon as I felt I could find my footing, she came begging for me back. I could not resist and took her back.

I would feel like a failure to break off the engagement and crush her dreams, I just don?t know how I could live with myself. We have been through so much together and have had so many happy times together and been through so many trials together. But, I have so much doubt about our relationship. Is this normal before marriage?

Help! What should I do?!

Today, 08:28 AM

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I resent the fact that I had to cut some of my best friends out of my life, that I had to give her all my passwords, that when we were separated she threatened calling my family to tell them all the ways I had wronged her, threatened to get me in trouble with the police. I resent the fact, that I had to delete all pics I had with a deceased close female friend, that she never supports me in my hobbies, that she wants me to quit my job at the pinnacle of my professional career to change cities, that she doesn't support my religion, that she wants to have control of the money, that she wants me to work extra hours to give her nicer things, that she is so material, when I really am not a material person.

I even resent the fact that she wants to have sex with me when I have asked her repeatedly and said I want to wait until marriage. I almost use this as an excuse because I have no sexual desire for her. I just want to have that desire to have sex with her, and that clearly is not there. This is very bothersome to me.

I know this seems harsh but over 4 1/2 years I have come to resent a lot and I still asked her to marry me. Most of this stuff happened early in our relationship, years ago, and i didn't know how to react since it was my first serious relationship. I do believe she is a changed person, and she has come a long way in proving that to me, but it is a lot to erase my fears and doubts.

Today, 09:28 AM

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All I can say is, WOW. Go ahead an marry her so you don't "crush her dreams." Your post appears to indicate just what some of her "dreams" may be. I guarantee you this: you marry this woman, and you'll be back here posting within a year about how miserable and trapped you feel.

With the resentment you hold towards your fiance, and the demands she is making of you (which you find unreasonable), I'd say you have a recipe for disaster right now.

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Today, 10:25 AM

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Because I have no idea what I am doing, and have not had any real productive conversations with any body about it! And this is what scares me. Marriage is a risk, right?

But I will say this...

There are so many things that I love about her. I love the way she answers the door to greet me, I love making her laugh, I love the way she makes me laugh, I love her sense of humor, I love her playful side, I love spending time with her (most of the time), I love cuddling and holding her, I love taking her new places and love introducing her to people and the list goes on. I know that is really, really, really sucks that the sex isn't really there, but from what I can gather, that is kind of normal after 4 1/2 years in a relationship. I mean it was great the first 2 years, and then we had to kind of learn to love each other, without the passion. I mean I have a huge desire for passion, and so does she, but realistically I guess it always burns out (is that right?).

This is why it is so incredibly hard for me to walk away, despite some of the gut feelings that I get and doubts that I have.

I appreciate the feedback by the way, keep it coming and thank you!

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RALEIGH (AP) -- With his presidential campaign ailing, Newt Gingrich is hoping for a boost from North Carolina.

The former speaker of the U.S. House is to make two campaign stops in Raleigh on Monday, meeting with Republican and independent black voters and having lunch at a restaurant.

The visit comes a day after Gingrich said his campaign has nearly $4.5 million in debt and that he expects rival Mitt Romney to win the GOP nomination. Gingrich says he's staying in the race to influence the party's platform.

Gingrich was briefly the frontrunner after his surprise Jan. 21 victory in the South Carolina primary, but he has been a distant third since then, trailing Romney and former Pennsylvania Sen. Rick Santorum.

The North Carolina primary is May 8.

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Business Consultant's Digest April 6th, 2012 | arc mercury

by Derek Greer

As a business consulting firm we focus on small businesses, startups and the middle class entrepreneur.? Knowing the value of time, here we share news items that we believe have the deepest impact on small business.

Top stories being reported today in the Wall Street Journal:

Job Slowdown Renews Doubt-?U.S. job creation slowed, as a labor market that recently has showed vigor appeared to lose momentum. The data have political implications and raise questions about Fed policy.
Stocks mostly edged lower, capping the biggest weekly drop of the year, as the Dow industrials declined 14.61 points to 13060.14.
The improving economy is providing a slight boost to U.S. malls and shopping centers, which registered their first declines in vacancies in years.
Microsoft is courting app developers for its Windows Phone to try to dent the dominance of Apple and Google in the smartphone market.
Venture Firms Offer More Than Cash-?Some of the biggest names in venture capital are starting to provide start-ups with more than just capital, offering marketing, design and other services that companies typically need help with in their early stages.
Bid to Ease the Squeeze on Business-?San Francisco has for at least two decades been a difficult place to set up and operate a small business, but the city is trying to simplify the process, especially for restaurants.

The question of the day: is the U.S. economy recovering? ?Well according to the recent jobs report, no. ?New jobs created (nonfarm) for March were 120,000, coming in under 200,000 for the first time since November of last year according to the labor department. ?However, on a more positive note, US malls and shopping centers are registering their first decline in vacancies in years. ?A good indicator that the economy is returning it?s buying power. ?As for the entrepreneurs and start-ups out there, venture capital firms are beginning to come to the party with more than just cash. ?They are attempting to offer more hands on services that will help companies take off.